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Month: December, 2011

‘Tis The Season To Try To Be Jolly.

‘Tis the season to be jolly….right? Sure. I’m not usually a cynic for the holidays, especially Christmas time, but for these past  5 years, I’ve been….not so jolly. Going back to 2007, my filthy rich uncle from Indonesia has become the center of the winter holidays. I want to make it clear that this particular blog is not about me hating and blaming all holiday disaster on him, but he is the reason of the cause. And I’m going to repeat that last phrase, he is the reason of the cause, not the cause. The reason. I guess what makes this whole thing more bitter to me is the fact that my Birthday is actually ON Christmas day.   The first two years of this new “Christmas/New Year tradition” was actually fun and interesting, but overtime, it has become a drag for me. Why, you ask, because I don’t remember when was the last time my family actually asked me what I wanted to do for my Birthday. At the end of the year, I ask the same question to my parents when my uncle and his family visit, “What are we going to do for Christmas?”, I take the blame for not speaking my mind, but a part of me still wish that when that question is being asked, they would considerately ask me, “What do YOU want to do, since it is also your Birthday?”. Every time my uncle comes, everyone becomes a robot. Whatever he asks, we will answer; whatever he tells us to do, we will do. He is not an evil guy whose intention is to rule and be the “boss”, but my family and friends make it seem like everything he wants to do, WE have to do as well. Though I will admit that it’s hard to pass up on all the things he offers us, but it doesn’t mean you forget all the other things that were once important.

Each and every year, things get tougher. My parents separated in 2009, and their divorced was finalized I believe in 2010. But their marriage begin crumbling into pieces in 2008. So, that would mean I’ve only spent one normal Christmas/New Year holiday with my mom and dad still married and happy ever since my uncle started the tradition. The rest of the years, they have been more than a challenge for my sister and I. There are so many things I would like to mention, but too much for a blog. I will however go back to the point of what this whole thing is supposed to be about; “What do I want to do for my Birthday?” Christmas of 2010, I remember my dad telling me that they will be spending Christmas [and my Birthday] watching Lakers [as we always have been doing for the past years since my uncle came] and  for the first time ever, I declined the offer. I, instead went to church and have one of my very good/close friend pick me up and spend Christmas time with him and his family. But before I begin the whole day, all I remember of that day was waking up in my parents room, alone. The only thing that greeted me was the silence. No “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!”, no “MERRY CHRISTMAS!”, no anything. All that stood out of that day was me waking up, and the tears I have kept all those years  ran down my cheeks in an instant. This lasted for half an hour. I was alone, and as I was lying there in bed, all I wished for was to hear the voices that used to sing me the Birthday song when it hits midnight, or in the morning when I woke up. My dad, mom, and sister were not there, and for the very first time since the separation of my parents, I knew it was never going to be the same again.

This year is different, yet similar. I have a boyfriend. Our 1 year was actually yesterday on the 22nd. I was really excited yesterday. I wanted to do something simple with him- so, we saw Christmas lights in Rancho Cucamonga, ate In-N-Out [a place he wanted to avoid,  but the only thing that I was craving for that night], and we watched The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo. I loved what we did- except the part where we argued every other minute for something as little as a phone call he had made during our Christmas lights walk. I was annoyed that he had to make a call and tell our mutual friend that he and his girlfriend [my close friend] should see the lights, etc etc. I don’t know why I blew up, because I would be the last person to care about these things, but I did- so I apologized for my irrationality. To sum up the night: We argued about the phone call, we got lost a few times [I didn’t mind, but he did], he got annoyed at the situation, I got annoyed at him for being so annoyed, he got annoyed at me for being annoyed at him for being annoyed at the situation, we made up, we had fun, he took me home, it was almost 3:00 AM, I was tired, but didn’t want to get out the car [I wanted to take a nap in there for a while], he didn’t want to see me sleep because he thought I would be groggy when he wakes me up, we argued a bit, and it ended with a kiss and a bye. He left, and I decided to walk around at night/morning. I went to the basketball court and I just lay there. I listened to the owl “whooing”, I felt the breeze, the crackling leaves, the clear night sky.. it was a beautiful night. As I lay there in silence, I begin to cry. I cried, again. It’s almost a “why the hell am I always crying at the end of the year?” I barely cry. As a matter of fact, I never cry. But anyway, I cried. I thought about the night and the Christmas day last year, and I finally went on home after. This afternoon, I asked my dad *hoping for a different answer*, “Hey dad, what are we going to do for Christmas?” and he said with confidence, “We’re going to watch the Lakers play.” I was expecting the answer, so I wasn’t surprised or disappointed because this time I’ll be spending Christmas Eve with my boyfriend and his family. After he answered me, I explained to him what I will be doing for Christmas Eve and how I’ll no longer go to San Diego with my boyfriend’s family on Christmas day, and instead hang out with my side of the family- his response? Negative. He, instead, in an angry tone, asked me, “Why do you have to be there for Christmas morning?  I don’t want to go back and forth from LA for you.”  He, he didn’t want to do that for me. He wanted the Christmas day, which is also the day of his daughter’s birth to be easy for him, to be enjoyable, to be fun, and that is to do whatever my uncle is doing. And my sister? She’s spending it watching Lakers, too. My mom? Haven’t asked, but I’m going to take a wild guess that she will be working. With my dad’s inconsiderate response, I commented with frustration, “Nobody ever asks me what I wanted to do for my Birthday anymore.”  He didn’t say anything.

Before writing this long essay-like blog, I realized why I didn’t want to get out of the car, and when I did, I walked around alone. I realized why the little things bothered me yesterday, and I realized why I called my 1 year with my boyfriend a “Whatever I Want To Do Day”- which was funny and ultimately selfish at the time. I guess I unconsciously took our 1 year as another holiday. A holiday in December  that my uncle has nothing to do with. A “holiday” in which I could do all the things that I’ve been wanting to do for the past years, but couldn’t. I made my boyfriend and my 1 year into a “holiday” that was never meant to be one. And as tired as I was, I’ve also realized that I didn’t want to get out of the car because I knew as soon as I get out of that car and into my home, the only “holiday” in December that I actually enjoy would officially be over. I was being lame. I don’t know how else to put it. 

I don’t want to watch the Lakers play again on my Birthday, but if that means getting to spend time with my family, I’ll take it. I just hope that someday soon someone will ask me what I would like to do for my Birthday. In the mean while, somebody please remind me how this time of year is supposed to feel. 

‘Tis the season to be jolly.

Maybe things should slow down a bit.

Butterflies Or Number Two?

December 13th, 2011
1:40pm Tuesday (KST) – Time in Seoul, South Korea

It’s your wedding day. Minutes before you’re about step in that church hall, you’ve realized you are about to trade vows with not just anybody, but your partner who you will spend the rest of your forever with. You are in love, and the thought simply excites you. You are anxious. Then, in an instant, strikes another realization. You suddenly need to go number two. You, out of no where, need to go poop. No, this is not a tragic, couple story where “I need to go number two” realization destroyed a special day or…. what was supposed to be a special day, but I guess I could say it radiates around this “touchy subject”. This is not a thought that randomly crossed my mind for I’ve actually thought about it more than once before, and Im curious if Im the only one who feels this immense hatred towards this….out of nowhere, felonious feeling that appears in time where excitement + anxiety take place. I don’t know about you, but every single time an exciting event is about to happen, like for me right now, I’m at the international airport in Seoul, Korea for transit, heading back to California after 4 months, and I’am beyond ecstatic to see Mister Novio [boyfriend named Michael]- I’m here for a whopping 8 hours, and thoughts sprinting in and out of my mind are likely to happen, especially when i’m alone with no one to talk to but myself. Going off topic**, now back to the point i’m trying to make and still trying to understand. I’m excited. I have butterflies in my stomach and out of freaking no where, I need to go number two. I haven’t even eaten anything yet! How is this even possible? I don’t know if im more shocked at the fact that I really needed to go to the restroom….[[and badly]] at the time, or how i’m still surprised that such lame feeling would barge in just like that; when im all….energized, delighted, and you know……..high spirited, because THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS TO ME. Every time im just minutes away from an exciting moment, I suddenly need to seriously use the restroom. And I hate the part where you can’t go, because the event is about to start, and if you go, it’ll ruin the moment and cause unwanted speculations of why this happened, why that happened, and you’re just to damn embarrass to say that you needed to go number two. Or to put it more blunty, you needed to poop. Or “poo” cuz that actually sounds cute, but thats aside my point. I don’t understand why having “butterflies in my stomach” also means “Im anxious. I really need to poop.” Aren’t butterflies supposed to be pretty or something? Tell me. Tell me why? This happened to me during my highschool graduation, happened to me going to Indonesia, happened to me minutes before a job interview, it.just.always.happens. But please also tell me that I’m not the only one to have to go through this. Cuz that would be just dead on lame on my end. I need to know that minutes before I walk down the isle to my forever one day, I won’t be the only woman who would go into the immediate shock of “man, I really need to number two.” Somebody make my day and tell me you’ve gone through this- maybe not often or in a dramatic sense, but enlighten me with a “Yes, Rachel, I know exactly what you mean.” Because this, this is something I will never come close to understanding.

If no one agrees, then……………………………………I take everything back. I don’t know what I’m talking about. I’ve never gone through that……. What?? Pshttttttt……you know, whatever….Life is cool. Treats me fairly. You know….just doing my thang. All good in the neighborhood of love..its cool.. Turtles are chill….they can eat lettuce and stuff..

A Glimpse Of Jogja/Yogyakarta, Indonesia- A Special Region.

  • Here are photos of my short period of time in Jogja/Yogyakarta, Indonesia! Beautiful place. Wished I stayed longer, because 3 days and 2 nights are not enough to explore and mingle with the locals….or tourists? I have never in my life seen so many Batik [the traditional fabric of Indonesia]  in one second. Everywhere I go, Batik, Batik, Batik, Batik. I loved it! I’ve always been a fan of Javanese people since I can remember, and this minute trip reminded me exactly WHY I love them; they’re so nice….and sweet. Kinda like the Italians of Europe.  Anyway, It was an interesting trip and I hope you [whoever you are] enjoy these pictures~ cheers*

The Birthday Boy.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY,

Mister Novio!

Today is my boyfriend’s Birthday & unfortunately I cannot spend this special day with him for I’m still in Indonesia. It’s all in good hands though. I will be back in less than a week, so we can celebrate his Birthday then- ….along with Halloween and Thanksgiving and all the other random holidays that occurred during my stay here in Indonesia; like Labor Day..or Columbus. Why not, let’s just celebrate it with a bang. I’am not there with him, but I hope that he had, has, still having a GRAND Birthday! Like what I’ve already told him, I hope GOD blesses him with many many more years to come because I expect many many more years to spend mi vida con él.  HAPPY BIRTHDAY, FELIZ ANIVERSÁRIO, FELIZ CUMPLEAÑOS, & SELAMAT ULANG TAHUN, Michael P. Leite.

Never lose hope, always love, and have faith in all that you do.

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